that's the solution I came up with as well... thanks
Man, I'm sorry, I'm still getting used to this. This part works now, I can host and join, works just great. I really like how the dll connects after starting the engine, not while it is starting, that way you don't need to use the command line and you can have a main menu before joining up in any game, without having to restart the engine.
It does take a bunch of getting used to but I recommend it