We just have different opinions there then.

To me its a certainty, due to the sheer numbers involved.

There are are monsterously huge numbers of stars, only some of which have planets.
Of that (still) stunningly huge number of planets, only some are capable of supporting life.
Of that remaining amazingly huge number of life support-able planets, only some get lucky enough to form.
Of that remaining vastly huge number of life supporting planets, only some get lucky enough to form higher life-forms.
Of that remaining (still) huge number of planets with higher life, only some get lucky enough not to nuke themselves out of existance.

So seeing as we are starting with billion upon billion upon billions of stars,
near infinate, then intelligent developed life (in my opinion) IS out there somewhere.
But its unlikely we will be close enough to make contact without FTL of some sort...
Think of is as we have evolved on a grain of sand on a beah America,
and other life evolved on a grain of sand on a beach in china....

"lucky coincidence"'s occur often when trialled MANY MANY times...